Let Go and Let God

For the longest time, I lived my life to please others. I'm not sure how it started but I just know that by the time I was in secondary school, I had started caring a lot about what people thought of me. I always wanted to look good in front of others. A lot of people got so accustomed to this behaviour that whenever I tried to act otherwise, they knew the exact words to throw at me to make me feel bad. I'm not here to throw blames at anyone because I sincerely believe it isn't worth it.

Anyways, this habit of mine reduced by the time I entered Senior school but that didn't mean I didn't feel terrible each time I lost a friend because I decided to stand my ground. The good thing about doing that was that I was creating space for the amazing people that were yet to come into my life but I didn't know that. At that point, I couldn't understand this process. I wanted all the answers.

This habit is something I've struggled with. Some days it looks like I'm making a lot of progress at getting rid of this habit but then when my bad days come, it feels like I'm back to square one. Up until now, it is still something I'm still struggling with.

However, one of the things I've learned as I grow in Christ is that it's okay to be clueless about some things especially when those things happen unexpectedly (this has to do with me wanting all the answers). This is the beginning of having absolute faith in God and His plans for our lives (Jeremiah 29:11; Isaiah 55: 8-9).

Also, another thing I've learned is that it's not everybody that will like what you're doing or even support you. Even those you expect to be the happiest for you may not even like that you're progressing in life and that's perfectly normal (this sounds unbelievable but it's the truth). We're all human and the flesh is selfish and self-centered. Of course they won't come out to tell you this but like the wise saying goes, "actions speak louder than words."

At this stage, what you shouldn't do is to get upset with them. This is easier said than done but honestly speaking, it's not worth it. The only thing you'll get out of this is unnecessary stress and hypertension and sincerely you don't need that kind of energy. Now what you should do is to let them be. If you tell them about your plans and all you're greeted with is silence then let it slide, go back and SEEK the face of the Lord. After you have done this, WAIT for His response. This might come in various ways but the most important thing is that you were patient enough to wait on Him.
(p.s: sometimes the response you may receive from God may also be silence because what you want to go into may be a sin or may cause you havoc in the long-run and you honestly don't expect a go-ahead from God to engage in sin or do something that will affect your life negatively).

Lastly, if you've followed the previous step and you're convinced that what you want to go into is part of His plan, then all you have to do now is to start it anyway irrespective of the fact that you might receive zero support from your family or friends. Trust me when I say that God will raise helpers for you, people you didn't even think about will come wanting to help turn your dreams into reality.

On a final note, by the time you start this dream of yours and it is growing, I strongly advise that you don't build up any feeling of hatred or bitterness against those people who didn't support you. I know I've already stated you shouldn't get upset with them but the truth still remains that we can't help but feel a slight anger towards them for not being there for you when you needed them the most. Once we start feeling this way, we must learn to Release Forgiveness unto them. This process is something we should do each time the feeling resurfaces. By doing so, you free yourself of unnecessary stress and pain, and you have a clear head for fresh ideas to flow so it's a win-win on both sides.

I hope I've been able to help a number of persons with the points I've raised. The conversation doesn't have to end here, feel free to email me if you need more tips or if you have any contibutions. I may not always have all the answers so we'll learn from each other. If you also want to share your story with me on how you handled a similar situation, send me an email as well. I'd love to hear your stories and learn a few things from it. I love you all and thanks for existing .

                                                        Fey

                                               

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